What is emotional security?

January 13, 2020 0 By Angela

What is emotional security and why is it important in a relationship? You may be lacking the feeling of safety in your relationship if you do not feel your partner respects you, assumes the worst of you, or is rude, hostile and seems detached. When you are in a relationship it is important to be able to depend on one another, to be able to confide in your partner and feel safe while doing so. You must be able to talk about your fears or concerns, and know that they will be supportive and not degrade you for opening up to them.

If you feel that you can’t talk about your concerns without feeling belittled, then you’re in the wrong situation. Having the security of knowing that your partner will always have your back in difficult situations is imperative, and when you see early on that someone doesn’t, it’s important to think long and hard as to whether or not that person is truly the right match for you.

To have a solid relationship you need to be with someone that you consider to be your best friend. For example, if someone doesn’t have your back when push comes to shove, and you feel that you can’t depend on them when you’re faced with different predicaments, then you really don’t have much of a foundation with that person. Being able to depend on your partner is essential, and if your partner reacts out of fear and/or is defensive then your relationship likely has some big issues that either need to get resolved or you should both go your separate ways. When you can’t depend on someone that you love or someone that’s supposed to be your best friend and your partner, you really have nothing to fight for. 

We all deserve to have a partner in life that will stand by our side through thick and thin, and not disappear or distance themselves when things get tough. We all want to be loved and accepted in life, and if our own partner isn’t going to stand by our side, stick up for us, and give us the reassurance and love that we need and deserve, who will? Isn’t that the reason for choosing a life partner, to always have “your person” that is by your side until the end of time.